What Allyship Really Means
Allyship isn't a label you give yourself—it's an ongoing practice. It's not about rainbow profile pictures during Pride (though those don't hurt). It's about consistent action, education, and showing up when it matters.
The Foundations of Allyship
Listen and Learn
Start by listening to LGBTQ+ voices:
- Follow LGBTQ+ creators and educators
- Read books by LGBTQ+ authors
- Watch content created by and for the community
- Listen more than you speak on LGBTQ+ issues
Educate Yourself
Don't expect LGBTQ+ people to educate you. Resources exist:
- Learn correct terminology and respectful language
- Understand the basics of different identities
- Stay informed on issues affecting the community
- Know the history of LGBTQ+ rights movements
Taking Action
In Your Daily Life
- Use correct pronouns without making it a big deal
- Don't assume anyone's sexual orientation or gender identity
- Speak up when you hear homophobic or transphobic comments
- Normalize talking about LGBTQ+ issues
In Larger Contexts
- Support LGBTQ+-inclusive policies at work
- Vote for candidates who support LGBTQ+ rights
- Donate to LGBTQ+ organizations
- Support LGBTQ+ owned businesses
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Making it about you ("I'm such a good ally!")
- Expecting praise for basic decency
- Speaking over LGBTQ+ people
- Only showing up during Pride month
- Treating LGBTQ+ people as a monolith
When You Make Mistakes
You will make mistakes. When you do:
- Apologize sincerely
- Learn from it
- Do better going forward
- Don't center your feelings
The Ongoing Journey
Allyship isn't a destination—it's a practice. Keep learning, keep showing up, keep doing the work.
Allies: what's something you've learned on your journey? LGBTQ+ folks: what do you wish allies knew?
